**This is an excerpt from my first book, 'Choices--The Power is Within You.' This chapter is entitled Personal Power in Child-Rearing, and deals with the issue in relation to parents with children still in the home. This chapter focused on the female parent. A different chapter dealt with the male parent in relation to utilizing Personal Power.
Always keep an open communication with your child/children regarding your love for them and stress how they can come to you to express their feelings of being separated from dad or in some cases, mom. It needs to be repeated: Sincerely try not to speak negatively regarding the children's dad--period--especially in front of them, and don't sit idly by while allowing others to do so. Try to maintain a healthy, respectful relationship with your ex-spouse. If this is not possible at times, suggest he speak directly with the kids and remove yourself from a negative situation in a positive way. Perhaps you can agree to a drop off and pick-up point when exchanging the children from one place to another for visits. Be prompt and specific when talking of times and places to do this. Once you begin thinking ahead on these and other issues, you'll be able to come up with positive solutions that will benefit everyone involved. I must state: This in no way mean I advocate for or against separations or divorce. However I have witnessed atrocities subjected upon women for many reasons and many decades with the rationalization by many that because one is married, one must endure and therefore continue in such an environment. This simply is not true and people, women especially, need to be told and/or reminded of this.
In an ideal society, children would have what they need--both parents. Many times I get an outburst of indignation from single female heads of households when I make that statement. I certainly am not looking to alienate this particular group. As is common knowledge, through divorce, I too, am a single parent and know firsthand the challenges being in this position entails. But the simple truth is: Children get or 'learn' certain qualities from both parents. This applies to girls as well as boys. I have said many times in my seminars that although a mother can teach a boy manners, respect, a good work ethic, and all the other things we'd like them to exhibit, a woman simply cannot teach a boy to be a man. We need men to do that part of the teaching. We have not had the male experience. We can't know what it is like to experience the many changes their voices and bodies go through. Try as we may, we can't fully appreciate when they first begin to become attracted to females--sometimes based solely on physical attributes. We can certainly talk with them, express to them what we think they may be experiencing as best we can, but we cannot fully understand how they think, feel or relate to their experiences. Let's face it, there are some issues a male child would feel more comfortable talking with a responsible, male adult figure with. Not as an offense to the mom, but simply because he may feel we truly cannot, no matter how much we'd like to, understand the significance of his particular situation.
And although we can teach girls to be women, girls derive certain qualities or teachings from their dads that we aren't able to give. When a dad or significant male figure is absent from a girls' household, girls oftentimes look for acceptance and appreciation from other males. A dad can teach a girl that no matter what she may experience or go through, she has his unconditional love and support. This keeps girls from looking for male love in all the wrong places. With a strong, positive, role-model father figure in the picture, girls have less of a need to 'prove their love or self-worth to other males.' Mothers can teach girls how to respect themselves and others, but a dad can show girls how a man should really treat someone that he loves on a daily basis. Fathers can show how a family should be supported not just financially, but mentally and spiritually as well.
Another advantage to having a two-parent household deals with issues of stress, time and the feelings of being alone as we do the 'solo parent role.' Try as we may, when we have two or more children and both have a special event simultaneously, we cannot be in two places at once. We must choose which will take precedence, while trying to keep a balanced schedule of events that would be fair for each child. With two parents, the opportunity at least exists whereby each parent could attend an event. Flying solo means attempting to be involved in school events and other outside activities at different levels with siblings that are at different ages and stages in life. I am currently at the point where I have a child in high school, one in middle school and one in elementary. A juggling act for sure, when it comes to attending parent teacher conferences.
After a period of time, this could, but not necessarily lead to heightened feelings of stress, resulting in other health related issues for the single parent. And frankly, there are times when single parents sincerely want to share life's ups and downs with a partner. Someone to celebrate the family events and happenings as well as someone to bounce ideas from, assist in the rearing of children and many of the other decision-making processes that having a family entails.
Both parents add to and enhance the lifestyle and environment of the child when they both can contribute in positive, healthy ways to their upbringing. But when this is not the case, when you find yourself in a situation where either you or your children are constantly being abused and/or neglected on a regular basis, then perhaps you may want to look at your beliefs and re-examine which ones you are clinging to. It has been said that everything that happens in our lives we either promote, create or allow. What are you creating in your life?
Personal Power can be utilized on a daily basis to manifest what you'd like to create in YOUR life!
**The author realizes this chapter focused on parents of the 'opposite sex,' but she also celebrates same-sex couples that are parents as well. The articles' focus is on the children... separated from parents and suggests ways to make that separation and transition go more smoothly for all parties involved.
**Excerpt from 'Choices' was during the time in the author's life when her children were in grade school. They have since become healthy, adults that are living independently o their own.
Sherry Brantley is an Author, Speaker and Trainer. She is the Owner of S.T.E.P.P. Its Mission Statement: To assist people to make positive choices in their lives on a daily basis to effect positive change by tapping into and utilizing their Personal Power while accepting and respecting the Personal Power of others.
www.inspirationalvoice.com
S.T.E.P.P: Start To Exercise Personal Power
'STEPP Up To YOU!'
Friday, September 11, 2015
Tuesday, September 8, 2015
UTILIZING PERSONAL POWER IN RELATIONSHIPS
**This is an excerpt from my first book, 'Choices--The Power is Within You.' This chapter is entitled 'Utilizing Personal Power in Relationships.'
Women have used everything from their background and environment, to man-made laws to continue to be abused sexually, physically, financially and emotionally. In connection to that what we teach our children by our actions--they learn! All of us have witnessed the devastating effects this type of teaching has done to generation upon generation. Mom's mate mistreats her or abuses her physically on a regular basis, so male children think this is normal behavior to exhibit once they are grown and out on their own. Girls also think it's normal to continue in that type of tradition once they leave home, allowing themselves to also be subjected to the vicious cycle of abuse in various forms.
This is why it is so important that women especially, begin to learn and use any and all information which teaches that all humans, including themselves, are divine beings. Being made aware of this knowledge you will cease to allow any mistreatment towards you or your children--by anyone. Knowing that the Universe will certainly support you in your now positive belief system, you won't tolerate abuse in any area of your life. Not on the job, not at the grocers, not from a neighbor, spouse or children. Once you have grasped the understanding that no one has the right to abuse--in any form, you will begin to simply not allow that type of behavior to permeate any area of your life. No person, male or female that ever experienced problems in this area who has grasped this principle, ever goes back to being the same again. As you begin to tap into and utilize your Personal Power, you'll find a myriad of positive ways to not only remove yourself from these types of negative lifestyles and situations, but you'll also learn to not allow them to become a part of your life in any way, therefore there will not be a need to side-step them or try to remove yourself from them.
Consequently, as I described in an earlier section of my book 'Choices--The Power is Within You,' when I realized the 'lessons' my ex-husband and I were teaching our children--for mom's, if we allow aberrant behavior in our households whether we condone it or not--we are certainly teaching it! Then I realized I no longer wanted that for my girls. Many times people exclaimed: "You should have stayed in the marriage for the sake of the girls!" I always reply, "My dear spiritual sibling, it was because of the girls that I left!" There was no way I could teach them to choose a spouse that took his family and fatherly responsibilities seriously as long as they saw me with someone that didn't. I didn't leave in a huff. There weren't any ugly battles. Just a revelation that I believed in something much grander, more powerful than I could describe to anyone and my spouse could not at that tine in his life see, believe or even entertain the thought that possibly, it could be so.
Today when my girls see negative behavior exhibited towards one of their friends or even one of my adult female friends, they'll ask me why the abused party deals with that type of negative behavior. They express concern for the individual but they will not remain in their environment. Ultimately this is the lesson I wanted to teach. This is not to say they will remember or even embrace all of the lessons and principles which I've attempted to instill in them, but should they decide to develop a belief system which supports a negative behavior pattern, it certainly would not be because they were raised in that type of environment. As parents, we have to do the best we can with the knowledge we have available to us at any given time, and trust that our children, although certainly making mistakes of their own, will ultimately begin to choose decisions based on positive principles and lifestyles. As the theme of my 'Choices--The Power is Within You' book states throughout, we all make choices. They will either be positive or negative, and they will be based on the belief systems which we have created for ourselves.
Personal Power can be utilized on a daily basis to manifest what you'd like to create in YOUR life!
**My 'Choices...' book delves more specifically into the details of the break-down of my marriage. In a nutshell: Shortly after marrying I discovered my spouse was an alcoholic. I'd like to say he'd 'hidden it well,' but like most people, I saw only what I wanted to see prior to that. What can I say? I can't write a book about the Choices we all make--and then not take responsibility for my own. After having three children and 7- straight years of his being unemployed, totaling my car, and not taking responsibility for his family in any way, I weighed me and my children's worth and the future I'd envisioned for our lives and I determined that worth to be at a much greater scale than what we were experiencing. I then made the conscious decision to create a more positive lifestyle. It is a decision that I have never once regretted. Even when my girls and I were homeless, hungry and car-less. I experienced a lot of 'less' during that short period of time in my life, but I was never hopeless or faithless!
Sherry Brantley is an Author, Speaker and Trainer. She is the Owner of S.T.E.P.P. Its Mission Statement: To assist people to make positive choices in their lives on a daily basis to effect positive change by tapping into and utilizing their Personal Power while accepting and respecting the Personal Power of others.
www.inspirationalvoice.com
S.T.E.P.P: Start To Exercise Personal Power
'STEPP Up To YOU!'
Women have used everything from their background and environment, to man-made laws to continue to be abused sexually, physically, financially and emotionally. In connection to that what we teach our children by our actions--they learn! All of us have witnessed the devastating effects this type of teaching has done to generation upon generation. Mom's mate mistreats her or abuses her physically on a regular basis, so male children think this is normal behavior to exhibit once they are grown and out on their own. Girls also think it's normal to continue in that type of tradition once they leave home, allowing themselves to also be subjected to the vicious cycle of abuse in various forms.
This is why it is so important that women especially, begin to learn and use any and all information which teaches that all humans, including themselves, are divine beings. Being made aware of this knowledge you will cease to allow any mistreatment towards you or your children--by anyone. Knowing that the Universe will certainly support you in your now positive belief system, you won't tolerate abuse in any area of your life. Not on the job, not at the grocers, not from a neighbor, spouse or children. Once you have grasped the understanding that no one has the right to abuse--in any form, you will begin to simply not allow that type of behavior to permeate any area of your life. No person, male or female that ever experienced problems in this area who has grasped this principle, ever goes back to being the same again. As you begin to tap into and utilize your Personal Power, you'll find a myriad of positive ways to not only remove yourself from these types of negative lifestyles and situations, but you'll also learn to not allow them to become a part of your life in any way, therefore there will not be a need to side-step them or try to remove yourself from them.
Consequently, as I described in an earlier section of my book 'Choices--The Power is Within You,' when I realized the 'lessons' my ex-husband and I were teaching our children--for mom's, if we allow aberrant behavior in our households whether we condone it or not--we are certainly teaching it! Then I realized I no longer wanted that for my girls. Many times people exclaimed: "You should have stayed in the marriage for the sake of the girls!" I always reply, "My dear spiritual sibling, it was because of the girls that I left!" There was no way I could teach them to choose a spouse that took his family and fatherly responsibilities seriously as long as they saw me with someone that didn't. I didn't leave in a huff. There weren't any ugly battles. Just a revelation that I believed in something much grander, more powerful than I could describe to anyone and my spouse could not at that tine in his life see, believe or even entertain the thought that possibly, it could be so.
Today when my girls see negative behavior exhibited towards one of their friends or even one of my adult female friends, they'll ask me why the abused party deals with that type of negative behavior. They express concern for the individual but they will not remain in their environment. Ultimately this is the lesson I wanted to teach. This is not to say they will remember or even embrace all of the lessons and principles which I've attempted to instill in them, but should they decide to develop a belief system which supports a negative behavior pattern, it certainly would not be because they were raised in that type of environment. As parents, we have to do the best we can with the knowledge we have available to us at any given time, and trust that our children, although certainly making mistakes of their own, will ultimately begin to choose decisions based on positive principles and lifestyles. As the theme of my 'Choices--The Power is Within You' book states throughout, we all make choices. They will either be positive or negative, and they will be based on the belief systems which we have created for ourselves.
Personal Power can be utilized on a daily basis to manifest what you'd like to create in YOUR life!
**My 'Choices...' book delves more specifically into the details of the break-down of my marriage. In a nutshell: Shortly after marrying I discovered my spouse was an alcoholic. I'd like to say he'd 'hidden it well,' but like most people, I saw only what I wanted to see prior to that. What can I say? I can't write a book about the Choices we all make--and then not take responsibility for my own. After having three children and 7- straight years of his being unemployed, totaling my car, and not taking responsibility for his family in any way, I weighed me and my children's worth and the future I'd envisioned for our lives and I determined that worth to be at a much greater scale than what we were experiencing. I then made the conscious decision to create a more positive lifestyle. It is a decision that I have never once regretted. Even when my girls and I were homeless, hungry and car-less. I experienced a lot of 'less' during that short period of time in my life, but I was never hopeless or faithless!
Sherry Brantley is an Author, Speaker and Trainer. She is the Owner of S.T.E.P.P. Its Mission Statement: To assist people to make positive choices in their lives on a daily basis to effect positive change by tapping into and utilizing their Personal Power while accepting and respecting the Personal Power of others.
www.inspirationalvoice.com
S.T.E.P.P: Start To Exercise Personal Power
'STEPP Up To YOU!'
Monday, September 7, 2015
'REASONS' VS. 'EXCUSES'
There is a big difference between having a reason and making an excuse. I know. At one time, I was a BIG one for making excuses. They included: 'I am a female. I am African-American. I am from the inner-city of Detroit. I am divorced. I am now a single parent of three young girls. I am homeless. I feel alone. I didn't complete my degree at Wayne State University.'
Of course, I didn't see these as excuses at first. They seemed like reasons to me. Spiritually, I knew I was a powerful person. I knew that there was much more to my life and the lives of others as I began my inner search. By now, you may have grasped the concept that a spiritual search indicates in itself that it must start from within. You cannot locate your spirituality in someone else, nor can you locate it 'outside' of yourself. It is an inner search. A search that has taught me so much during my lifetime that even now, as I write about it, I realize that had I not actually gone through my own inner search, I would not have felt it would have been possible for me to do some of the things I have been able to accomplish.
What is the difference between reasons and excuses? An excuse is what we use when we fall short of something, do not meet a goal, didn't meet up to our responsibilities or someone else's expectations of us. It doesn't explain the true why--it simply says something didn't work out as expected or planned. A reason, however is valid. It explains the true why of a situation, is specific and detailed and it holds dignity in the validity of it! For example, if you were expected somewhere but didn't show up--an excuse could be any of the following: 'I just washed my hair, (It could have been washed earlier or later, depending upon the time) I had nothing to wear, (usually you're aware of a special event before it occurs, hence you could prepare something to wear, buy something, have a garment cleaned and returned, etc) or an excuse could be a flippant, 'something else came up.' (something else always comes up when we really don't want to do a particular thing in the first place!)
However, if you take the same circumstance of not showing up somewhere within a specific time frame and apply a reason to it, it would validate your not being able to make it to a specific event. A reason could be: I was hospitalized or in the emergency room with my kids/parents/friend/spouse, etc. You certainly couldn't have made it in that situation! You do have other obligations at times in life and being there for family and friends when they truly need you may be one of them. Or you may simply have changed your mind about attending an event--and that is a reason in and of itself.
In short, excuses have 'holes' in them. We can always shoot them down and we usually do. This is why you will hear people say: "What's your excuse this time?" Or, "I don't want to hear any excuses." They're worthless to even listen to. But when someone is coming to you in the right way, in a truthful way, in a valid way, you're more prone to ask: "What was the reason you couldn't make it?" Not what was your excuse. You will also notice the 'reason' question gets asked of the most responsible people. The people not coming with a bagful of excuses trying to figure out which one to use.
The point here is this: When it comes to dealing with the Spirit, we don't have any reasons why we don't heed it's word--we only have excuses. We have reasons in the physical world, because we are physical beings. Needless to say, this imposes specific limitations on us due to our physical capabilities. We couldn't sprout wings to fly no matter how positive thinking we become. But the Spirit world works with us through our spiritual capabilities. So when our Spirit instructs us on what to do, or how to do something, It is already aware that we are physically capable of doing a thing or It would not request it of us. Do not be afraid of where your Spirit takes you, or the longings you have to pursue your dreams, fulfill your desires and create the life you want. The resources that are needed for you to succeed in your endeavors are already here, in this time and space for you. All that is required is that you truly begin to believe in that which you truly want to receive!
Personal Power can be utilized on a daily basis to manifest what you'd like to create in YOUR life!
Sherry Brantley is an Author, Speaker and Trainer. She is the Owner of S.T.E.P.P. Its Mission Statement: To assist people to make positive choices in their lives on a daily basis to effect positive change by tapping into and utilizing their Personal Power while accepting and respecting the Personal Power of others.
www.inspirationalvoice.com
S.T.E.P.P: Start To Exercise Personal Power
'STEPP Up To YOU!'
Of course, I didn't see these as excuses at first. They seemed like reasons to me. Spiritually, I knew I was a powerful person. I knew that there was much more to my life and the lives of others as I began my inner search. By now, you may have grasped the concept that a spiritual search indicates in itself that it must start from within. You cannot locate your spirituality in someone else, nor can you locate it 'outside' of yourself. It is an inner search. A search that has taught me so much during my lifetime that even now, as I write about it, I realize that had I not actually gone through my own inner search, I would not have felt it would have been possible for me to do some of the things I have been able to accomplish.
What is the difference between reasons and excuses? An excuse is what we use when we fall short of something, do not meet a goal, didn't meet up to our responsibilities or someone else's expectations of us. It doesn't explain the true why--it simply says something didn't work out as expected or planned. A reason, however is valid. It explains the true why of a situation, is specific and detailed and it holds dignity in the validity of it! For example, if you were expected somewhere but didn't show up--an excuse could be any of the following: 'I just washed my hair, (It could have been washed earlier or later, depending upon the time) I had nothing to wear, (usually you're aware of a special event before it occurs, hence you could prepare something to wear, buy something, have a garment cleaned and returned, etc) or an excuse could be a flippant, 'something else came up.' (something else always comes up when we really don't want to do a particular thing in the first place!)
However, if you take the same circumstance of not showing up somewhere within a specific time frame and apply a reason to it, it would validate your not being able to make it to a specific event. A reason could be: I was hospitalized or in the emergency room with my kids/parents/friend/spouse, etc. You certainly couldn't have made it in that situation! You do have other obligations at times in life and being there for family and friends when they truly need you may be one of them. Or you may simply have changed your mind about attending an event--and that is a reason in and of itself.
In short, excuses have 'holes' in them. We can always shoot them down and we usually do. This is why you will hear people say: "What's your excuse this time?" Or, "I don't want to hear any excuses." They're worthless to even listen to. But when someone is coming to you in the right way, in a truthful way, in a valid way, you're more prone to ask: "What was the reason you couldn't make it?" Not what was your excuse. You will also notice the 'reason' question gets asked of the most responsible people. The people not coming with a bagful of excuses trying to figure out which one to use.
The point here is this: When it comes to dealing with the Spirit, we don't have any reasons why we don't heed it's word--we only have excuses. We have reasons in the physical world, because we are physical beings. Needless to say, this imposes specific limitations on us due to our physical capabilities. We couldn't sprout wings to fly no matter how positive thinking we become. But the Spirit world works with us through our spiritual capabilities. So when our Spirit instructs us on what to do, or how to do something, It is already aware that we are physically capable of doing a thing or It would not request it of us. Do not be afraid of where your Spirit takes you, or the longings you have to pursue your dreams, fulfill your desires and create the life you want. The resources that are needed for you to succeed in your endeavors are already here, in this time and space for you. All that is required is that you truly begin to believe in that which you truly want to receive!
Personal Power can be utilized on a daily basis to manifest what you'd like to create in YOUR life!
Sherry Brantley is an Author, Speaker and Trainer. She is the Owner of S.T.E.P.P. Its Mission Statement: To assist people to make positive choices in their lives on a daily basis to effect positive change by tapping into and utilizing their Personal Power while accepting and respecting the Personal Power of others.
www.inspirationalvoice.com
S.T.E.P.P: Start To Exercise Personal Power
'STEPP Up To YOU!'
Sunday, September 6, 2015
DO YOU LISTEN AS WELL AS YOU HEAR?
There were times when revelations and clarifications of Universal Principles were made known to me at what I thought were the most inopportune times. I soon learned that it doesn't matter where we are, what types of activity we are engaged in, or the company we're with when being engaged in any activity, the Spirit can and will direct us towards a way that we can make a conscious decision/choice to remove ourselves as delicately as possible should we choose to act at that time.
The Spirit always speaks to us. But if you are not aware of this or not listening, you will not know. For example, if the ringer on your phone is broken, but the actual phone is working, you will simply be unaware that someone is calling you. This does not mean no one is calling--simply that you cannot hear it, and you are still able to use the phone to call out! Likewise, because we, for whatever reason, are not hearing the Spirit does not mean the Spirit does not call out to us. We still call out to it, but if we are not receptive to it, we may not hear it when it speaks. All of us are always called to fulfill our purpose, our passion in life. Do you want to continue being a 'phone whose ringer doesn't work' when your still, inner voice calls out to you? Or do you choose to have all of your 'working parts' receptive to the words of your Spirit and the purpose you came here to fulfill?
Yes, there have been times when I didn't want to face the truths that were being told to me spiritually and I struggled like hell to do what I wanted to do and made excuses why I didn't listen. During those times it was revealed to me there is a definite difference between an excuse and a reason. (See the following post 'Reasons Vs. Excuses' which details the difference between the two)
With my understanding of the difference between the two, I no longer use excuses in my daily interaction with others, and I simply give valid reasons for my actions. If I feel the occasion calls for it, I may clarify my position or stance on an issue and allow my reasoning to stand on its own merit. You'd be amazed at the positive impact living a life of authenticity can bring to you and all those you come into contact with. Not interested in attending an event that you've been invited to? Unable to travel to a wedding out of town due to your time constraints or financial commitments? Not looking forward to going to yet another event that simply does not resonate with you? A simple, yet firm, powerful and respectful 'No,' will empower you to live your life on your terms while respecting the person that is so graciously extending the invite to you.
Free yourself to begin to experience you in all of your passion, your glory and the totality of what you envision for yourself! Let your 'Yes' resonate with you fully, but also stand firm on the 'No's' you give in life. Allow your inner, still small voice to guide you to experience that which you have come to partake in, and in doing so, you'll free those around you to make the choices that are necessary in their lives to do the same. Whether they make the same or similar choice is not your concern. After all, the only person that can truly change your life--is YOU!
Personal Power can be utilized on a daily basis to manifest what you'd like to create in YOUR life!
**The following post 'Reasons' Vs. 'Excuses,' details the differences between the two words.
Sherry Brantley is an Author, Speaker and Trainer. She is the Owner of S.T.E.P.P. Mission Statement: To assist people to make positive choices in their lives on a daily basis to effect positive change by tapping into and utilizing their Personal Power while accepting and respecting the Personal Power of others.
www.inspirationalvoice.com
S.T.E.P.P: Start To Exercise Personal Power
'STEPP Up To YOU!'
The Spirit always speaks to us. But if you are not aware of this or not listening, you will not know. For example, if the ringer on your phone is broken, but the actual phone is working, you will simply be unaware that someone is calling you. This does not mean no one is calling--simply that you cannot hear it, and you are still able to use the phone to call out! Likewise, because we, for whatever reason, are not hearing the Spirit does not mean the Spirit does not call out to us. We still call out to it, but if we are not receptive to it, we may not hear it when it speaks. All of us are always called to fulfill our purpose, our passion in life. Do you want to continue being a 'phone whose ringer doesn't work' when your still, inner voice calls out to you? Or do you choose to have all of your 'working parts' receptive to the words of your Spirit and the purpose you came here to fulfill?
Yes, there have been times when I didn't want to face the truths that were being told to me spiritually and I struggled like hell to do what I wanted to do and made excuses why I didn't listen. During those times it was revealed to me there is a definite difference between an excuse and a reason. (See the following post 'Reasons Vs. Excuses' which details the difference between the two)
With my understanding of the difference between the two, I no longer use excuses in my daily interaction with others, and I simply give valid reasons for my actions. If I feel the occasion calls for it, I may clarify my position or stance on an issue and allow my reasoning to stand on its own merit. You'd be amazed at the positive impact living a life of authenticity can bring to you and all those you come into contact with. Not interested in attending an event that you've been invited to? Unable to travel to a wedding out of town due to your time constraints or financial commitments? Not looking forward to going to yet another event that simply does not resonate with you? A simple, yet firm, powerful and respectful 'No,' will empower you to live your life on your terms while respecting the person that is so graciously extending the invite to you.
Free yourself to begin to experience you in all of your passion, your glory and the totality of what you envision for yourself! Let your 'Yes' resonate with you fully, but also stand firm on the 'No's' you give in life. Allow your inner, still small voice to guide you to experience that which you have come to partake in, and in doing so, you'll free those around you to make the choices that are necessary in their lives to do the same. Whether they make the same or similar choice is not your concern. After all, the only person that can truly change your life--is YOU!
Personal Power can be utilized on a daily basis to manifest what you'd like to create in YOUR life!
**The following post 'Reasons' Vs. 'Excuses,' details the differences between the two words.
Sherry Brantley is an Author, Speaker and Trainer. She is the Owner of S.T.E.P.P. Mission Statement: To assist people to make positive choices in their lives on a daily basis to effect positive change by tapping into and utilizing their Personal Power while accepting and respecting the Personal Power of others.
www.inspirationalvoice.com
S.T.E.P.P: Start To Exercise Personal Power
'STEPP Up To YOU!'
Saturday, September 5, 2015
TAPPING INTO YOUR PERSONAL POWER!
As previously posted, this is the third of a 3-part series focusing on your Personal Power and how utilizing it can have a lasting, permanent, positive impact in your life--and the lives of those around you. *This section of the Personal Power series are excerpts from my first book, 'Choices--The Power is Within You.'
As a reminder, Personal Power is a literal, spiritual power we all possess. It is possible to utilize this very powerful source in your life on a daily basis without being aware of the origin of 'The Force,' and many throughout history have done just that. Not being able to explain what drives or motivates them to higher heights but being steadfast in their own personal journeys nonetheless. To begin to tap into your Personal Power you must of course, be willing to have a shift in your current stream of consciousness to know that it is indeed a force that is simply awaiting your command. Your Personal Power is waiting to be tried--not denied! :) As you begin to 'conceive differently--you will receive differently!' That which you focus on will begin to be manifested in and around you in abundant measures.
You need only to look within and never without. Your Personal Power is there. It has always been there. It is used in a loving, respectful way in the realization that we are all spiritually connected. No person that is spiritually aware of the Universal oneness we all share, would dare attack any part or portion of 'their body' with the intention of destroying or maiming another. Yet everyday, that is exactly what we do to one another. We attack one another physically in the form of wars, sexual assaults and the abuse and neglect of our children. We attack one another economically by denying jobs, housing and education to specific targeted groups. We attack ourselves financially by living beyond our means and obtaining unneccessary credit, and we attack others financially by not repaying our loans or outstanding debts.
Once we really understand the Universe certainly gives out to us what we have given, we no longer act in negative ways. Once we truly realize that any attack on any one of our spiritual siblings is indeed, an attack on ourselves--since it will be meted back out to us, we no longer respond in that manner. Once we understand that acting negatively towards one another in any capacity, contributes to the downfall of the whole of society destroying ourselves in the process, we no longer hold to our old beliefs, misperceptions and concepts, and we begin to embrace ones based on precepts of love, respect and empowerment of all things good.
There is no need to go anywhere to begin your journey--except to go within. This is not as difficult as you may believe. Choose a time to spend with yourself--for yourself. A place and a time where there will be no interruptions. No cell phone use during that time--meaning it should be muted or turned off. No TV, computer, or thoughts of bills running through your mind. No place for current modern-day interruptions to disturb you as you sit quietly, feeling and concentrating on taking deep, relaxing breaths. It may feel awkard, silly or a waste of time in the beginning if you are not used to taking time out for self, but as with anything, the more you do it in a focused, calm, quiet environment, the more you'll become at ease with it and the sooner you'll be able to derive the benefits of recharging yourself--mentally, physically and more importantly, Spiritually!
Personal Power can be utilized on a daily basis to manifest what you'd like to create in YOUR life!
Sherry Brantley is an Author, Speaker and Trainer. She is the Owner of S.T.E.P.P. Mission Statement: To assist people to make positive choices in their lives on a daily basis to effect positive change by tapping into and utilizing their Personal Power while accepting and respecting the Personal Power of others.
www.inspirationalvoice.com
S.T.E.P.P: Start To Exercise Personal Power
'STEPP Up To YOU!'
WHAT IS PERSONAL POWER?
STEPP: START TO EXERCISE PERSONAL POWER!
As per my previous post, this is the second of a 3-part series focusing on your Personal Power and how utilizing it can have a lasting, permanent, positive impact in your life--and the lives of those around you. *This section is an excerpt from my first book, 'Choices--The Power is Within You.'
Personal Power is the literal, spiritual power we all possess. Once you begin to focus on that power, divine Universal laws align with your awareness equal to the proportion of your beliefs in it, and this very force begins to expand in your life--in all areas of your life. Since Personal Power is a positive force, it can only give or 'exercise' itself towards positive objectives and outcomes. Translation: It is not possible to use Personal Power in a negative way. It cannot be used to bully, torture, hurt, disrespect, torment, humiliate, or usurp authority in any form which is negative or has any sort of negative connotation.
When people are using those and the myriad other negative ways to reach any outcome--it is not Personal Power they are tapping into. They are coming from a thought system based on fear. In our physical world, fear takes on many forms such as: Alcoholism, drugs, substance abuse, over-eating, bulimia, anorexia, using our charge cards indiscriminately, gambling excessively, smoking, greed, lack of self-love, anger, jealousy, etc. Fear takes on forms in the actions that we display towards ourselves as well as with others. Bullying, taunting, physical/mental/sexual abuse, disrespect, hate groups, and the list goes on. In some cases, fear is also manifested in the forms of depression, neglecting our bodies, self-mutilation and various forms of self-defeating behavior patterns.
There is not a form of fear or lack of self-love that cannot be dealt with through tapping into and using your own well of Personal Power from within. That is it's purpose for being. To guide us, train us, lead us to the very answers to the questions that we seek. Do not fool yourself. For every question--there is a definite, positive answer. For every negative outlook or viewpoint, there is a counterpoint--or a positive way and solution. However if we're only focusing on the negative, we tend to defend ourselves and our points of view in that manner, resulting in our receiving a response in like form. There is an old saying which states: 'If you see yourself as a hammer, you'll see every problem as a nail.' In other words, you'll have the tendency to not only think there is only one way out of problems--but you'll also feel attacking the problem and banging the heck out of it will be the solution. This of course leads you to attack or be forever on the defense, and therefore, those you come into contact with will also take the same stance. This will continue to keep you in the attack or be attacked mode unless you begin to change your perception of your world and how you view it.
Personal Power is a positive, spiritual force that embraces the teachings of the spiritual masters throughout all time. It is not derived from, nor is it exclusive to any one religion, tenet or dogma. Like the actual laws of the Universe--it is inclusive. It is based on genuine, self-love, forgiveness and developing and creating the positive world you'd like to experience. It is one of the tenets of the Universal Law of Attraction: "What you focus on in life, you expand in your life." Or as bestselling authors Ester and Jerry Hicks have summed it: "You get what you focus on--whether you want it or not!" It's time to focus only on that which you truly want to experience--and it is much simpler to do that than most people have been lead or taught to believe. Imagine seeing a world where we are all aware of the oneness of the Universe! Not just ourselves as a human species, but remembering to keep our Mother Earth in a position where she can abundantly take care of all of her inhabitants. Where we are no longer polluting our basic life sources: Water, air, food and land. A place where we consciously as well as subconsciously affirm and believe in principles that allow the entire universe to flourish abundantly. Imagine, choosing harmony as a whole with all of humanity!
Personal Power can be utilized on a daily basis to manifest what you'd like to create in YOUR life!
Sherry Brantley is an Author, Speaker and Trainer. She is the Owner of S.T.E.P.P. Mission Statement: To assist people to make positive choices in their lives on a daily basis to effect positive change by tapping into and utilizing their Personal Power while accepting and respecting the Personal Power of others.
www.inspirationalvoice.com
S.T.E.P.P: Start To Exercise Personal Power
'STEPP Up To YOU!'
As per my previous post, this is the second of a 3-part series focusing on your Personal Power and how utilizing it can have a lasting, permanent, positive impact in your life--and the lives of those around you. *This section is an excerpt from my first book, 'Choices--The Power is Within You.'
Personal Power is the literal, spiritual power we all possess. Once you begin to focus on that power, divine Universal laws align with your awareness equal to the proportion of your beliefs in it, and this very force begins to expand in your life--in all areas of your life. Since Personal Power is a positive force, it can only give or 'exercise' itself towards positive objectives and outcomes. Translation: It is not possible to use Personal Power in a negative way. It cannot be used to bully, torture, hurt, disrespect, torment, humiliate, or usurp authority in any form which is negative or has any sort of negative connotation.
When people are using those and the myriad other negative ways to reach any outcome--it is not Personal Power they are tapping into. They are coming from a thought system based on fear. In our physical world, fear takes on many forms such as: Alcoholism, drugs, substance abuse, over-eating, bulimia, anorexia, using our charge cards indiscriminately, gambling excessively, smoking, greed, lack of self-love, anger, jealousy, etc. Fear takes on forms in the actions that we display towards ourselves as well as with others. Bullying, taunting, physical/mental/sexual abuse, disrespect, hate groups, and the list goes on. In some cases, fear is also manifested in the forms of depression, neglecting our bodies, self-mutilation and various forms of self-defeating behavior patterns.
There is not a form of fear or lack of self-love that cannot be dealt with through tapping into and using your own well of Personal Power from within. That is it's purpose for being. To guide us, train us, lead us to the very answers to the questions that we seek. Do not fool yourself. For every question--there is a definite, positive answer. For every negative outlook or viewpoint, there is a counterpoint--or a positive way and solution. However if we're only focusing on the negative, we tend to defend ourselves and our points of view in that manner, resulting in our receiving a response in like form. There is an old saying which states: 'If you see yourself as a hammer, you'll see every problem as a nail.' In other words, you'll have the tendency to not only think there is only one way out of problems--but you'll also feel attacking the problem and banging the heck out of it will be the solution. This of course leads you to attack or be forever on the defense, and therefore, those you come into contact with will also take the same stance. This will continue to keep you in the attack or be attacked mode unless you begin to change your perception of your world and how you view it.
Personal Power is a positive, spiritual force that embraces the teachings of the spiritual masters throughout all time. It is not derived from, nor is it exclusive to any one religion, tenet or dogma. Like the actual laws of the Universe--it is inclusive. It is based on genuine, self-love, forgiveness and developing and creating the positive world you'd like to experience. It is one of the tenets of the Universal Law of Attraction: "What you focus on in life, you expand in your life." Or as bestselling authors Ester and Jerry Hicks have summed it: "You get what you focus on--whether you want it or not!" It's time to focus only on that which you truly want to experience--and it is much simpler to do that than most people have been lead or taught to believe. Imagine seeing a world where we are all aware of the oneness of the Universe! Not just ourselves as a human species, but remembering to keep our Mother Earth in a position where she can abundantly take care of all of her inhabitants. Where we are no longer polluting our basic life sources: Water, air, food and land. A place where we consciously as well as subconsciously affirm and believe in principles that allow the entire universe to flourish abundantly. Imagine, choosing harmony as a whole with all of humanity!
Personal Power can be utilized on a daily basis to manifest what you'd like to create in YOUR life!
Sherry Brantley is an Author, Speaker and Trainer. She is the Owner of S.T.E.P.P. Mission Statement: To assist people to make positive choices in their lives on a daily basis to effect positive change by tapping into and utilizing their Personal Power while accepting and respecting the Personal Power of others.
www.inspirationalvoice.com
S.T.E.P.P: Start To Exercise Personal Power
'STEPP Up To YOU!'
'STEPP' UP TO YOU!
Welcome to my S.T.E.P.P. Blog! S.T.E.P.P. is an acronym for my speaking business which stands for: Start To Exercise Personal Power!
The information I am sharing in the first postings of my blog will include excerpts from my first book, 'Choices--The Power Is Within You'. This is the first of a 3-part blog focusing on your Personal Power and how utilizing it can have a lasting, permanent, positive impact in your life--and the lives of those around you.
What is Personal Power and how do we go about 'tapping into it?' Personal Power is an innate Power derived directly from your Spirit, that gently guides and steers you towards your purpose, your passion and the gifts you have that you would like to offer to others. It is a power that is personal to each and every one of us. Although it is derived from the same source and we all share it in equal amounts, we do not all use it in equal amounts! It is manifested in each of us in a unique way. Not just through the individual talents and gifts we were all given, but in our very thoughts, perceptions and understandings of the world around us. Unique in our passions and our creativity. Our belief systems. Our longings. Our desires. Unique in the many different ways in which we utilize our talents and gifts.
Some of us express this Power through our musical and/or other artistic talents. For example, many of us have enjoyed the pianist who was able to play in such a way that made our Spirits soar, heard the singer that moved us to tears of joy or sorrow, or witnessed the dancer that seems to move as one with the Universe--in smooth, fluid movements.
The passion and commitment that some people exhibit in their careers, on the job, with their families and throughout their lives on a daily basis is a testament of how some of us are choosing to utilize this very powerful, very spiritual force. The leaders that have taken a stand for righteousness by peaceful methods against all odds and yet, maintain a thirst that refuses to be quenched until they've reached their goal. The teacher that believed in someone--when no one else would, by refusing to accept what others said or thought--until that person ultimately began to believe in themselves as well. Parents that continue to struggle on a daily basis to ensure a better life for their children. These are all examples of people who have recognized, visualized and began utilizing their own Personal Power.
Personal Power can be utilized on a daily basis to manifest what you'd like to create in YOUR life!
**This is the 1st of a 3-part series in relation to utilizing your Personal Power!
Sherry Brantley is an Author, Speaker and Trainer. She is the Owner of S.T.E.P.P. Mission Statement: To assist people to make positive choices in their lives on a daily basis to effect positive change by tapping into and utilizing their Personal Power while accepting and respecting the Personal Power of others.
www.inspirationalvoice.com
S.T.E.P.P: Start To Exercise Personal Power
'STEPP Up To YOU!'
The information I am sharing in the first postings of my blog will include excerpts from my first book, 'Choices--The Power Is Within You'. This is the first of a 3-part blog focusing on your Personal Power and how utilizing it can have a lasting, permanent, positive impact in your life--and the lives of those around you.
What is Personal Power and how do we go about 'tapping into it?' Personal Power is an innate Power derived directly from your Spirit, that gently guides and steers you towards your purpose, your passion and the gifts you have that you would like to offer to others. It is a power that is personal to each and every one of us. Although it is derived from the same source and we all share it in equal amounts, we do not all use it in equal amounts! It is manifested in each of us in a unique way. Not just through the individual talents and gifts we were all given, but in our very thoughts, perceptions and understandings of the world around us. Unique in our passions and our creativity. Our belief systems. Our longings. Our desires. Unique in the many different ways in which we utilize our talents and gifts.
Some of us express this Power through our musical and/or other artistic talents. For example, many of us have enjoyed the pianist who was able to play in such a way that made our Spirits soar, heard the singer that moved us to tears of joy or sorrow, or witnessed the dancer that seems to move as one with the Universe--in smooth, fluid movements.
The passion and commitment that some people exhibit in their careers, on the job, with their families and throughout their lives on a daily basis is a testament of how some of us are choosing to utilize this very powerful, very spiritual force. The leaders that have taken a stand for righteousness by peaceful methods against all odds and yet, maintain a thirst that refuses to be quenched until they've reached their goal. The teacher that believed in someone--when no one else would, by refusing to accept what others said or thought--until that person ultimately began to believe in themselves as well. Parents that continue to struggle on a daily basis to ensure a better life for their children. These are all examples of people who have recognized, visualized and began utilizing their own Personal Power.
Personal Power can be utilized on a daily basis to manifest what you'd like to create in YOUR life!
**This is the 1st of a 3-part series in relation to utilizing your Personal Power!
Sherry Brantley is an Author, Speaker and Trainer. She is the Owner of S.T.E.P.P. Mission Statement: To assist people to make positive choices in their lives on a daily basis to effect positive change by tapping into and utilizing their Personal Power while accepting and respecting the Personal Power of others.
www.inspirationalvoice.com
S.T.E.P.P: Start To Exercise Personal Power
'STEPP Up To YOU!'
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